推荐序一　构建和谐、健康的亲子关系是教育的根本
The core of education is to establish a harmonious and healthy parent-child relationship.

My story therapy work, and my therapeutic story books, have taken me to many places, many countries, many cultures.

借由我的故事治疗工作、我的疗愈故事书，我曾到过很多地方、很多国家，体验了各种不同的文化。

A particularly special time was my Autumn Tour in 2015 that finished in Changsha, what I now think of as the “heart” of China. My host was Amanda (Minchang Luo), and my experiences with Amanda and her family, both then and on a return trip in 2016, remain strongly in my memory. We shared many days of training, lovely meals together, long conversations, and an unforgettable holiday to Zhangjiajie National Forest Park.

其中很特别的一次旅行是2015年秋天的中国之旅，长沙是我那次旅行的最后一站，而这座城市成了我记忆中的中国之“心”。我的东道主是Amanda（罗敏畅），我和Amanda以及她的家人那一次的会面，还有一年后（2016年）的再次回访，给我留下了难忘的印象。我们在一起做故事治疗的培训，一起吃了很多次饭，欢声笑语、促膝长谈，还去张家界国家森林公园度过了几天美妙的假期！

From my first meeting with Amanda, I have been impressed by her passion and devotion to her Positive Discipline trainings and parent education programs.

从我第一次见到Amanda， 就深深地被她对正面管教和家庭教育事业的热爱和激情所打动。

I have also been impressed by her intense curiosity to study and learn new ideas, her hard and consistent work building up her Positive Parenting courses, and her ten-year journey in developing this book.

同样打动我的，还有她对于学习新事物的浓厚的好奇心，她在构建完善正面管教家长课程中一丝不苟的态度，和在酝酿、写作本书时十年磨一剑的专注。

Therefore, I am very pleased to know this publication is finally birthed and available. And I am honored to be invited to write the foreword for such an important topic!

因此，我非常高兴地看到本书终于即将出版。我受邀为这样一本主题非常有意义的书籍作序，倍感荣幸！

Just as healthy food can nourish a child’s growing body, a healthy approach to positive discipline can nourish a child’s budding soul. This publication is a guidebook for such a healthy approach. Amanda has a special focus on bringing about pro-active and creative solutions, and this was evident in her own parenting and collegial relationships.

正如健康的饮食能够滋养孩子日益成长的身体，健康的正面管教方式能够滋养孩子稚嫩的心灵。这本书就是一本关于这种健康教养方式的指南。Amanda特别专注于带来积极有效和有创意的解决方案，这一点在她自己多年的育儿经历和与同事的工作关系中都得到了验证。

Gentle and Firm Parenting: How to Motivate Children's Learning is a wonderful example of active and creative involvement. Each chapter opens a new and important window. The book journeys through all aspects of child-rearing, taking time to include a variety of practical approaches for parents. Amanda shares strategies to help parents learn how to cultivate children’s self-confidence, initiatives, and independent thinking, qualities that will help children grow into well-rounded balanced adults.

《温和而坚定的教养：激发孩子的学习活力》为父母如何积极而有创意地育儿提供了很棒的参考。每一章都像是打开了一扇新的窗户。本书涉及了育儿的方方面面，不遗余力地介绍了父母应对各种问题的实用方法。Amanda分享了不少策略，帮助家长们学习怎么培养孩子的自信心、主动性和独立思考能力，帮助孩子全面成长。

As a mother who raised three sons, I know how many challenges parents face on a daily, monthly and yearly basis. Most of us enter parenting with no training or experience, and we need guidance to help us on one of the most important journeys of a human’s life——being a parent!

作为三个儿子的母亲，我非常清楚父母们每天、每月，或是在更长的时段——每年，所要面对的无数挑战。我们大多数人没有经过任何培训或历练就当了父母，我们需要得到帮助，因为成为父母是人一生中最重要的工作之一！

Amanda’s wisdom, gained from her many years as both a parent and parenting coach, lights up every chapter of this book. I encourage you to explore these pages slowly——they offer important pathways to establish a harmonious and healthy parent-child relationship.

Amanda多年来在育儿和家庭教育导师工作中收获的智慧之光，闪耀在本书的每一个章节。我鼓励大家细细研读这些章节，它将带你找到构建和谐、健康亲子关系的重要途径。

苏珊·佩罗

苏珊·佩罗

来自澳大利亚东海岸，是一名资深的教育学硕士，有超过30年的教学、教师培训、家长教育的经验。多年来，苏珊致力于研究故事在教育中的作用，她为各年龄阶层面临各种困境和挑战情形的人撰写疗愈故事，疗愈的对象从个体到社区到全球。她已著有4本疗愈故事书，被翻译成包括汉语在内的12种语言出版发行。