第170章 LETTER CXV(2)

Nothing sinks a young man into low company,both of women and men,so surely as timidity and diffidence of himself.If he thinks that he shall not,he may depend upon it he will not please.But with proper endeavors to please,and a degree of persuasion that he shall,it is almost certain that he will.How many people does one meet with everywhere,who,with very moderate parts,and very little knowledge,push themselves pretty far,simply by being sanguine,enterprising,and persevering?They will take no denial from man or woman;difficulties do not discourage them;repulsed twice or thrice,they rally,they charge again,and nine times in ten prevail at last.The same means will much sooner,and,more certainly,attain the same ends,with your parts and knowledge.You have a fund to be sanguine upon,and good forces to rally.In business (talents supposed)nothing is more effectual or successful,than a good,though concealed opinion of one's self,a firm resolution,and an unwearied perseverance.None but madmen attempt impossibilities;and whatever is possible,is one way or another to be brought about.If one method fails,try another,and suit your methods to the characters you have to do with.At the treaty of the Pyrenees,which Cardinal Mazarin and Don Louis de Haro concluded,'dans l'Isle des Faisans',the latter carried some very important points by his constant and cool perseverance.

The Cardinal had all the Italian vivacity and impatience;Don Louis all the Spanish phlegm and tenaciousness.The point which the Cardinal had most at heart was,to hinder the re-establishment of the Prince of Conde,his implacable enemy;but he was in haste to conclude,and impatient to return to Court,where absence is always dangerous.Don Louis observed this,and never failed at every conference to bring the affair of the Prince of Conde upon the tapis.The Cardinal for some time refused even to treat upon it.Don Louis,with the same 'sang froid',as constantly persisted,till he at last prevailed:contrary to the intentions and the interest both of the Cardinal and of his Court.Sense must distinguish between what is impossible,and what is only difficu

I heard with great satisfaction the other day,from one who has been lately at Rome,that nobody was better received in the best companies than yourself.The same thing,I dare say,will happen to you at Paris;where they are particularly kind to all strangers,who will be civil to them,and show a desire of pleasing.But they must be flattered a little,not only by words,but by a seeming preference given to their country,their manners,and their customs;which is but a very small price to pay for a very good reception.Were I in Africa,I would pay it to a negro for his goodwill.Adieu.